Dare I suggest that all of us mommy bloggers have it wrong? It's not good vs. bad, silly, it's pancreas vs. gallbladder! I guess you'd like me to explain. Picture your child as one of those creepy laminated poster bodies that hang in the pediatrician's office, organs exposed for all to see. Got it? Now here we go...
As a mom, are you the brain? Do you make all the decisions for your kids? Are you constantly receiving stimuli and reacting instantaneously, synapses firing at lightning speed, before your kids even have a chance to think things through and react on their own?
Or are you the heart? That sounds nice, doesn't it? Well, let's think about it... Are you the lifeline of your kids, pumping 24/7, prominently carrying them along in life? If you stopped working furiously, would your children drop dead?
I think I want to be the kidney. Not much fanfare, I realize, but an important part of my kids' lives. I could even be slightly damaged, but my kids would be okay. In fact, I could be completely removed and they could still live happy, productive, healthy lives. My main role? I am there, quietly in the background, receiving everything my children ingest. I filter it, helping to eliminate the bad forever, and allowing them absorb the nutrients from the good. They thrive. They grow, not even realizing I am there sometimes. Although I get taken for granted at times, I remind myself that it is not about me. I am only one part of a glorious, self-sufficient, independent whole.